Sunday, November 28, 2004

 

Busy weekend

Well, my friend moved in with me today. The kids and I are so excited. We have been best buds for over 8 years now. She is single and was wanting to get out of her apartment complex. Tired of living on the 3rd floor. So, she is going to stay with me until dh gets home. I can't believe I have an adult to talk to now! You never realize how much you miss adult conversation until you have spent a lot of time alone with 3 kids 8 years old and younger! lol My oldest daughter is sooo excited, as she just loves this woman. Even dh is happy. We always joke that if he ever wants a 2nd wife, he can have her but no one else! Been a busy day, moving her stuff in, etc. Now, I am wound up, it is almost 1 am and I can't sleep. Dh called about 11pm so that was cool since I missed his call yesterday. He seemed to be doing well. I got a call from another company who wants dh to work for them when he is done with this contract! I might just have to "misplace" that message!! lol Yeah, like I am going to pass that on to him! When he comes home, he ain't going nowhere, Inshallah. Even if I have to hog tie him! lol We'll see what happens.

Friday, November 26, 2004

 

Missed phone call!

Well, dh called at 7:30 am and I was sleeping and didn't get to talk to him. Normally, I am up earlier but my baby took a late nap yesterday so she was up until almost 2!! LOL Don't you love children? He said he would try and call back but he must not have been able to. I spoke to a friend of his today, he was asking if dh planned to go for another year once this contract is up. I hope not. I really, really hope not. He says, you are so supportive of him. Am I? I don't think so, since I didn't want him to go in the first place. I think it was more of a selfish reason that I supported his decision. I was afraid of hearing the "what ifs" for the rest of my life, you know? I don't think I have it in me to support another year. Like his friend said, we will have to get to know each other all over again. Yeah, dating, what fun! The 2 weeks he was home on leave, I noticed alot of changes in him already. He quit drinking tea and coffee, totally. Can you imagine, an arab who doesn't drink either one? Who would have thought? His tastes in foods have changed, what used to be absolute favorites are now the ones he can take or leave. Just little things, I know. But, after 10 years of marriage, you have a routine, an understanding of how things are done, etc. It takes a bit to change things around. Well, 8 months down, 4 months to go. Sometimes, when I am whining, which I feel like I am doing right now, I think of all of the soldiers families, some who haven't seen their loved ones in over a year and half or even longer. Then, I feel selfish. God help me for that. I don't personally know anyone who is enlisted, but I hope with all of my heart that the families receive all of the help and support that they need and deserve from our government.

Monday, November 22, 2004

 

Just more ranting

Well, sorry it has been awhile since my last post. Darn blogging thing wouldn't let me post! I must have pissed it off, who knows? Anyway, I am becoming more worried about dh. I think he has been over there a little too long. It is funny, I had read on a soldiers site that he feels a break is needed around the 8th month or things start to deteriorate. Dh is right at that point and I have to agree with that soldier. He seems more short tempered, not his normal self. I mean, I know, he is in Iraq, not on vacation, but up until recently, he seemed to be handling things just fine. Now, I mention something I saw on the news, a bomber, shooting, etc. His response, that is everyday, the news does't report a 1/4 of what actually happens in Iraq. We get bombed almost everyday, shot at, etc. He says he is used to it, no big deal, don't worry, they have bad aim. That is the part that worries me. When things like that become "no big deal" anymore, I see that as a sign of burnout. It makes me worry, more than I already do. I got to talk to my MIL Saturday night, thankfully, they are all doing well. Took me a week of calling before we could get through. At least I can pass some good news on to dh when he calls. Had some friends of mine over for a hair removal party! lol To all non-arabs, this is where the women get together to do each others eyebrows, etc. Chance to sit, talk, have a girl bonding thing going! One of my friends, an american lady whose dh just got back from visiting Iraq is having trouble. Turns out some of her dh's friends have been talking to him, saying she was messing around on him while he was gone. Totally not true. Poor woman has a full time job and 3 kids. She doesn't have time to take a shower, let alone anything else. She is so pissed and I don't blame her. Not to generalize, as the only Iraqi community I know is the one I live in, but what is up with all the gossip? I mean, doesn't anyone have anything better to do than sit around and talk behind people's back and try to cause trouble? Are people that bored? If you have so little to do, get a job, a 2nd job, a hobby, whatever, but shut the hell up about other people. This kind of stuff just pisses me off to no end. Gossiping is a huge sin in Islam as well as accusing a chaste woman of infidelity. This is the reason dh and I keep to ourselves. If you don't, you are asking for trouble. In our community, everyone is so worried about what everyone else is doing, it is ridiculous. Anyway, I guess I am done ranting. Please pray for all the people in Iraq and for those left behind.

Sunday, November 14, 2004

 

Eid Mubarak!!

Eid Mubarak to all of my muslim readers. I hope you all are having a blessed and happy Eid. As I write this, I am thinking of the people of Iraq. This is the biggest holiday of the Islamic calendar. People dress up, exchange gifts, visit family and friends, but how can this be done during the current situation in Iraq? I don't see how it can be. I hope everyone used the month of Ramadan to pray for the people of Iraq. God knows, they need everyone's prayers. I hope and pray that peace will soon come to Iraq so the people can live how they want, in a country they love and with a government they have chosen. Allah Kareem.

Friday, November 12, 2004

 

Your questions, answered

1)Is your dh in the army or did he just join to be a translator?
No, he is not enlisted with any armed services, he is a private contractor who is with the armed services in every sense, except being enlisted. Has the uniform, lives on the base, etc. He wanted to do this because he said, without translators, people from both sides could get hurt/killed due to the language barrier.
2)How often do we talk and how?
We talk 3x a week or more. If he uses the base phone and a calling card from here, they only charge 3 cents a minute, or whatever the card charges for calls inside the US. Of course, all calls are a 15 minute limit. sometimes, it cuts you off even sooner than that. We also email back and forth.
3)What is the sweetest thing dh has ever said to me?
4)What is the most amazing thing he did that surprised me?
I put these together as it happened at the same time, just recently when we were home on leave. Dh had asked me what I wanted him to bring me back from Iraq. I said, nothing, just come home in one piece! :) So, we come home after picking him up from the airport and are sorting through his suitcases. He opens his carry on bag and hands me a small red box. I open it and got the shock/surprise of my life. Inside the box, is a very, very nice set of Iraqi gold jewelry, Mashallah. I have never been so surprised in my life! Now, this is the sweetest thing he ever said part. His cousin, along with his wife, came to visit. After seeing the jewelry, she says, Mashallah, that is so nice of you. Dh goes, well, when we got married, she asked me for nothing, we had nothing. Our bed was 2 single mattresses laying side by side on the floor. He says, she told me, she didn't care, that she loved me and we would work together to make our life and we did. So, she has put up with me for almost 10 years and I think this is the least I could do for her considering what she has done for me, Mashallah. She and I were both teary-eyed. I guess distance does really make the heart grow fonder, Mashallah.
5)What does dh see as the solution to the Iraq situation?
Well, truthfully, he says he has no idea. The Kurds want their own country, the Shias finally want to be able to do something with their majority, and the Sunnis don't want the Shias to have control over them. He says it is just a big mess and really doesn't know how it will ever work out. He is hoping that the elections will help people relax as they will have a real say in their own government. He is just taking a wait and see what happens after the elections approach.
6)What does dh think about my blog?
He has no idea that I am doing this blog. He hasn't seen it and I haven't told him about it. No reason, just keeping it to myself right now.


Wednesday, November 10, 2004

 

Copying a cool idea

Well, I hope just an army wife doesn't mind, but I really like her 20 questions idea. So, I am using it, too. Thanks sis. Please post any and all questions in the comments section and I will answer them. Please note, for safety concerns, I will not post dh's exact location, stuff like that. I am sure you all understand. Thanks for reading and I hope this will be fun and interesting.

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

 

Another day, a different story

You know, not that long ago, I blogged about dh wanting to maybe sign up for another year. I had told him that it would be ok with me since I know how strongly he feels about it. The funny thing, the last 5 conversations I have had with him, he is in a big hurry to come back. He says things have changed over there, it is getting worse and worse everyday. I do wonder what he means exactly, as I haven't seen much on the news concerning the part of the country he is in. of course, the whole country is in shambles right now and you do wonder what part of the news is true. He used to love being there, working, helping people, etc. Now, he seems kind of disillusioned. About what, not really sure. This is a new attitude coming from him. Totally opposite of before. Whatever happened to change his mind, I won't question, will find out when he gets home. Besides, I want him here so however that happens, I won't worry about it. Allahu Alim.

Friday, November 05, 2004

 

10 year anniversary

Well, today is my ten year anniversary, the first that I have spent without dh. I got to talk to him last night, so that was good. I have been thinking back, and I can honestly say, we have had a pretty good marriage over the years. Sure, we have had our differences, and nobody can make more angry than him, but those times are few and far between. Thank God. The funny part, no one thought we would make it. An American married to a former Iraqi, an Arab of all things! :) But, thankfully, they were all wrong. A marriage works because 2 people put time and effort into it. We have been through a lot together, 3 kids, a heart surgery, being broke! lol My dh still has an orange, I kid you not, that is 9 years old! Why? here is the story. We weren't quite married a year, and dh found out he needed angioplasty done. So, he has it done, no problems, Alhamdililah. 3 weeks later, his lung collapses and he ends up being off work another 2 months. I was working at a job making 6.75 an hour. Between the house bills, the medical bills, etc. we were in a sorry state. At one point, I had not gone to the store in almost 2 weeks, and all we had in the house was this 1 orange. Dh kept it as a reminder to always appreciate what you have and never to be ungrateful, as you can be back at the point at anytime. That orange has even been through 3 moves! He refuses to get rid of it! May sound corny, but that is the way he is. Another thing I love about him, he is absolutely in awe of his children. I mean, when they are born, he is just like a small child looking at something going, oohhh, look at that. He loves his children and spends as much time with him as possible. I miss the little things with him being gone, the parent side of him when the kids are driving me nuts, the way he massages my head when I have a migraine, the way he sneaks up behind me and surprises me with a hug and a kiss on the back of my neck. I remember the first birthday I had after we were married. This was during the time when he had the lung collapse. As I said, we were broke. So, being an artist as a hobbie, and I good one, I might add. He drew a colored pencil portrait of me for my birthday because he wanted to so badly to give me a gift. Mashallah, it looks exactly like me! He is really gifted but doesn't have the patience to do it very often, though I wish he would. Well, as you can tell by my long post, I am missing dh today, more than usual. We never had a wedding in the traditional sense, got married in the courthouse! We always said that we would throw a big anniversary/renewal of vows party on our 10th anniversary. Oh well, Inshallah, we can do it for our 20th! :) Happy Anniversary, honey. Love you and miss you!

Tuesday, November 02, 2004

 

Election Day

Don't worry, I won't endorse any candidate or any party on this blog. All I ask is that all people here in the US go out and vote, whoever it is that you vote for. As we all know, there is alot going on right now, therefore, alot at stake. Just vote, please. I think this election is very important, as are all elctions. Women have had the right to vote for less than a hundred years in this country. Take advantage of your rights. Not everyone is as lucky as we are to have the right to vote. The presidency is up for grabs as is the entire house. Again, no endorsements, just go vote! That way, you have every right to complain, or if something goes well, you can say, yeah, I voted for that person! :)

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